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Can a Man Carry Fire in His Lap
Proverbs 6:20-35
20 My son, keep your father’s commandment, and don’t forsake your mother’s teaching. · WEB
Two questions about fire settle the matter physically, and the comparison with a hungry thief measures what adultery cannot be repaid with.
The section opens by binding the father's commandment and the mother's teaching to the heart and the neck, and then describes what they do: they lead you when you walk, watch you when you sleep, and talk with you when you wake. The teaching is presented as a companion rather than a rulebook, on duty at all three times of day.
Then the two questions, and they are not rhetorical flourishes. Can a man scoop fire into his lap, and his clothes not be burned? Or can one walk on hot coals, and his feet not be scorched? Both invite a physical answer that any listener can supply, and the application follows immediately: So is he who goes in to his neighbor's wife. The argument is about causation rather than about penalty. Nobody has to arrange for the burning; carrying fire in the fold of a garment is itself the burning.
The comparison with theft is the sharpest reasoning in the chapter and it is easy to misread. Men do not despise a thief who steals to satisfy hunger. He is still liable and will restore sevenfold, giving all the wealth of his house — the passage does not excuse him. What it establishes is that theft has a price and the price can be paid, however ruinous.
Adultery is then set against that standard and found to have no equivalent. He who commits adultery with a woman is void of understanding. He who does it destroys his own soul. The wounds and the dishonor are named, and then the clause that closes the exit: His reproach will not be wiped away. There is no sevenfold restitution for this, because what was taken cannot be handed back.
The last two verses explain why in human terms, and they are unsentimental about it. Jealousy arouses the fury of the husband. He won't spare in the day of vengeance. He won't regard any ransom. A wronged man is described as beyond the reach of compensation, which is not presented as his failing. It is presented as the accurate measure of what was done to him, and therefore as the reason the fire was never survivable.
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